How important are names?

I was scrolling through tumblr one day and saw a post about how there is one person that ruined a certain name for us, and because of that person, we can never name our children, or have a friend by that name, due to the fact that we think they are going to end up like that one person we met in our life. But our name shouldn't define us. We should define our name.

When we meet someone, the first thing we find out is their name, and already in our mind we are thinking about someone else who has that exact same name and automatically are comparing the two. We have this preconceived idea of what they should act like, when we should approach them as if we had never met someone with their name before. Our name shouldn't define who we are. WE should define who we are. 

Often there are even times when we look at someone after finding out their name and say "Oh, you dont look like a ____ you look like a _____." Why do we have to "look" like a certain name? Is it because we met someone else that they kinda sorta looked like so we think they should have the same name? That just seems weird to me. We shouldn't judge people by what their name is, we shouldn't judge people at all, but instead we should learn who they are by the way they treat others, and how they act when they are put in different situations. 

I feel that in this world, we all want to know what is going to happen before it happens, so right before we meet someone new, we find out their name so we can think of another person we know by that name, and in turn, create unrealistic expectations about that person. 

No one person should "ruin" a name for us. I truly believe that everyone in this world is good, just some choose to do bad things. Their name doesn't choose to do bad things they do. 

Names seem to be so important these days. They took three days to name the royal baby. People don't want their children to be doomed with a bad name from the time that they are born, their actions are going to determine what they do with their life, not their name. 

So the next time that you judge someone based off their name, pretend that you have never met anyone with that name before so that you can see the person for who they really are and not what their name is. When you are naming your children in the future or now, name them whatever you want, because later in life they will make their own name for themselves through their actions.
So create you! Do Not let your surroundings define or create you. You create you!

Love,
Chrissy

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